FOCUS ON THE POSSIBILITY

There is a subtle disempowerment in a problem – a feeling that all the doors are shut. There’s a weariness and stuckness about it. Simply asking yourself “What’s the possibility we see in this situation?” can make a big difference.

Think of a difficult situation from your past that did not end well. What did you focus on? Now think of a struggle that had a good ending. What did you focus on? What made the difference?

I would venture to suggest that in the second scenario you focused on the solution. You focused on the possibilities.

When we focus on the problem, all we can see is the problem. Our thoughts are negative; we can’t see a way out, we lose hope and give up. The result? ...no solution – only despair.

Our attitude changes when we begin to focus on the solution. We’re expecting a positive ending. We’re looking past the problem and taking steps towards resolving the issue. We feel hopeful and optimistic.

Think of a difficult situation in your life right now. Start focusing on the solution. What are the possibilities? Ask yourself: “What outcome do I want?” Think of some ways you can start moving forward to get the outcome you want. Start by taking some action steps – focus on the solution! You will get a good ending. It will be worth the extra effort you’re putting in – and you’ll feel hopeful and optimistic!

Please leave a comment and tell us the possibilities you see in your struggles – and how you are focusing on the solution.

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott is a book I've just read.

The Value of Powerful Questions is the name of the workshop I'm delivering at a conference in Phoenix next week.

While preparing for the workshop, I came across a very powerful question in Fierce Conversations. It really made me think. It was a question I should have asked myself years ago when living in a situation that was not healthy.

The value in the question is that it will make you face things that you should not be ignoring. The answer may not be pleasant, but the answer will result in some action to improve your life in some way.

Are you curious yet?

Ask yourself this:
"What am I pretending not to know?"

Apply this question to your relationships, your work, your home, any other area in your life.

"What am I pretending not to know?"

In my next posting, I will help you to Focus on the Solution - another powerful concept!