Showing posts with label value. Show all posts
Showing posts with label value. Show all posts

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

WHY ME?


When you dance, the whole universe dances.
- Rumi


Why me? Why you?
...because I am important! ...because you are important!

When you’re on the plane, you’re always told that in case of an emergency you are to put your own oxygen mask on before your child’s. Make sure you are in a position to be able to help your child – or someone else.


As women, we seem to have an innate sense of wanting to be there for others, help them and support them. The reality is that we cannot do that unless we first are there for ourselves and make sure we are healthy and strong in every way. (Notice I’m including myself?)


Not enough time?


As I was thinking about this topic - taking time for ourselves, I felt like a hypocrite! I have been so busy lately that I haven’t taken my own medicine! I’m reminded of last Wednesday when I went for a haircut. The salon is small and intimate. My hair stylist was not finished with her client and offered me fresh coffee. I poured myself one, sat down, picked up a magazine and looked at it while enjoying the soft music playing in the background. It felt sooooooooooo good. Wow – my emotions surprised me. This was a wee bit of ‘me time’. Probably not ideal, but a pleasant unexpected surprise.


After being pampered with a hair wash and cut and getting my brows waxed, I felt really good as I walked to my car. I felt energized and relaxed at the same time. I was no longer in a hurry to get back to my ‘list’. It felt really good!


I was planning to write a dissertation on the value of giving yourself some ‘me time’ and espouse the notions behind the theory. Instead, I want to encourage you to take five minutes (more if possible) and experiment for yourself. Do something just for you! Then become aware of how it makes you feel, the impact it has on you.


I know it’s a tall order for a five minute experiment – but go ahead – try it. Let me know how it goes!


Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.
~Keri Russell




Monday, July 19, 2010

AN IMPORTANT QUESTION

Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott is a book I've just read.

The Value of Powerful Questions is the name of the workshop I'm delivering at a conference in Phoenix next week.

While preparing for the workshop, I came across a very powerful question in Fierce Conversations. It really made me think. It was a question I should have asked myself years ago when living in a situation that was not healthy.

The value in the question is that it will make you face things that you should not be ignoring. The answer may not be pleasant, but the answer will result in some action to improve your life in some way.

Are you curious yet?

Ask yourself this:
"What am I pretending not to know?"

Apply this question to your relationships, your work, your home, any other area in your life.

"What am I pretending not to know?"

In my next posting, I will help you to Focus on the Solution - another powerful concept!